Cabin crew: Love across the boundaries

Aug 2, 2017

Singapore Airlines cabin crew Melvyn Tan and Carmen Yu share with SilverKris how they make their love – and marriage – thrive.

What does an international courtship look like?

If you ask Singapore Airlines cabin crew and married couple Melvyn Tan and Carmen Yu, it’s a little like this: first date in Melbourne; first kiss in Frankfurt (“Or maybe it was New York,” said Tan); and dates at numerous landmarks all over the world.

“But I proposed in Singapore, in my room at my parent’s place in Bedok,” the 33-year-old recalled with a laugh, his wife, 34, by his side.

Now married for seven years, the Leading Steward and Stewardess have served over 10 years each with the Airline. They share with us the joys of building their careers together:

What was it like for the two of you while you were courting and flying?

Melvyn: Communication wasn’t as convenient as it is now. Back then, we didn’t have communication tools such as WhatsApp. We talked using MSN Messenger. When we had common days off, we would go out for movies. We would also exchange our monthly rosters and try to swop flights with colleagues so that we could serve on the same flight.

Carmen: Still, it was challenging as we could go up to a week or 10 days without seeing each another. But somehow, we made it work.

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What lessons did you learn on the job that has helped you in your relationship?

M: We learnt to trust each other completely. As we couldn’t always be together, we needed to trust each other to be faithful. We also treasured all the little moments we had together.

C: We learnt to value quality time as we don’t have a lot of time to spend together or with our loved ones. Also, we are in the service industry, and we always do our best to make sure passengers are happy. We have translated some of these practices to our marriage. For example, I would understand if my husband is tired after a long flight. Even if we had missed each other and I would like us to go out together, I would let him have time to rest first.